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Being Single on Valentine’s Day

Estefany Ruvalcaba

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, and a lot of us are making plans for our significant others. Choosing the perfect flowers, chocolates, and gifts is easy. However, we are currently experiencing a lot of changes due to the COVID-19 pandemic, and many of our with that our dating lives are affected too. For most of those who are single, Valentine’s Day is not a day to look forward to. The last thing needed is to remember past experiences when there was a significant other to celebrate with or feel excluded from a whole day dedicated to love.

Before you start dwelling and reminiscing about the non-existent love life, just remind yourself that you don’t need to feel upset about not having a significant other on Valentine’s Day. It is only one day out of 365, and you aren’t missing out on anything. Valentines is about spreading love, and you don’t need to be in a relationship to celebrate.

There are many options available for this coming Valentine’s Day. If there is one thing many of us have learned during the lockdown, there is always room for creativity, and we can work with what we got. Here are a few things you can do to stay in the valentines day spirit:

Appreciate and love yourself
Spend the day appreciating your accomplishments and progress. You can use this day to reflect on yourself by doing something you love, such as having a spa day, meditating, writing, reading, etc.  Remind yourself of the love you have within yourself and the love you give to yourself. You are the most important priority. Although self-love is important, it is perfectly okay to struggle. Self-love is a journey unique to everyone, and struggling doesn’t mean you are undeserving of love. Valentine’s Day is a great day to prioritize caring for yourself! Quarantine has many of us struggling within ourselves, so just be patient. We will get through this together.

Spoil yourself
Just because everyone else is getting gifts from others, that doesn’t mean that you cannot treat yourself to your favorite box of chocolates, perhaps maybe even some flowers. You can even buy something from your wishlist to pamper yourself! Don’t even dare feel bad about it because you deserve it!

Spoiling yourself doesn’t necessarily mean you need to buy something, but you can use this day as an excuse if you wanted. Spoiling yourself could be something simple, such as taking a long bath or turning off your cellphone for a bit. You could just treat yourself to a day all by yourself if you wanted. Do something that makes you feel good overall!

Self-pleasure
Although the topic of self-pleasure is still relatively taboo and sensitive, we can’t deny that we sometimes need our own quality time. There is a known negative stigma towards masturbation and to all their own opinions. However, self-pleasure is a very normal and personal journey. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Self-pleasure is a form of self-love to many of us, and on this one day out of the year, we could use the extra love. If you don’t know already, masturbating is a good thing. Not only does it help us feel good and improve confidence, but it is known to be a positive way to release stress and to explore our sexuality.

Self-pleasure is different for everyone. What may work for others may not work for you, and that’s completely fine. You can try new techniques, toys, and even scents. There are also pleasure box subscriptions such as Your Box Box to help you find and try new products to achieve an orgasm. This Valentine’s Day, set the mood and do what works for you!

Appreciate and love others
While you may not have a special someone to spend the day with, there are always friends and family that need reminding of love themselves. Demonstrate love to others this Valentine’s Day. During this rough time, all of us can appreciate a video chat, phone call, or text message from those we love. It could be to or from a parent, friend, mentor, co-worker, or family member. Many of us have had to adjust ourselves to a different type of lifestyle. Instead of going out and hanging out with others, we have to do basic day to day things remote. Many of us wish to return to normal. However, we are in a pandemic, and in order to go back to our lifestyles, it is important to stay at home as much as possible.

You can talk about plans you have this Valentine’s Day, catch up on each other’s lives, check up on them and make sure they are good. Social distancing can have an impact on our mental health. The CDC provides tips and information on how to cope and manage stress during COVID-19. It also lists several help hotlines for those struggling with their mental health.

Send a gift to others
You can send a small or big gift to those you care about to keep up with the spirit. They need spoiling just as much as we do too. If they are spending a lonely Valentine’s Day, send them a valentine! It could be a care kit or just a simple gift you think they’d appreciate. A gift could uplift the somber mood of this valentine.

Companies, such as Send A Friend, Cratejoy, and Care Crate, allow you to create or choose a gift/care package to send to friends and family. This could be good for friends and family who are long-distance and allows us to practice social distancing. To make things more exciting, you could even do a mail gift exchange with a group of friends this year.

Fix up a dinner
No one can go wrong with food. Try something new or cooking one of your own traditional dishes. Eating out is restricted, so stay at home and fix up a dinner for yourself, your family, or friends. Whatever your living situation might be, cooking is an excellent way to express and demonstrate our love and appreciation. Live on your own? Video chat with a loved one and cook together virtually. It’s a great way to reconnect and have some fun.

You can take virtual cooking classes for those who aren’t too great at cooking or want to try something new. Websites such as Cozymeal, The Table Less Traveled, and Life At The Table give you the option to book a private or public session. There is a large variety of dishes, so there is always something for everyone.

Watch a movie with friends
Although we might not be able to meet up with friends freely, there are many apps, websites, and or features that allow you to form a watch party with your streaming subscriptions. Arrange a group (such as those in the same community, school, clubs, etc.), select a time, and gather your favorite snacks. Relax and enjoy your favorite shows and movies. It’s a great attempt to feel close to normal. Imagine it as a more comfortable movie theater experience.

A few streaming services that allow you to form watch parties are Netflix, Hulu, and Disney+. For some subscriptions, you might have to use extensions or apps to enable the watch party features. For example, in order to set up a watch party for Netflix, you can download the Netflix Party extension to synchronize. Depending on the subscription and service, you can form a watch party with up to 8 people, whenever you want.

If you’re single on Valentine’s Day, you can still celebrate the lovely holiday and enjoy it just as much as everyone else. Valentine’s Day is the one day out of the year dedicated to love, so make the most out of it. Just because we aren’t committed or in romantic relationships like others doesn’t mean that we can not enjoy the day while at home. Instead, enjoy the day with those who make you smile and care about you, whether it be your family, friends, pets, etc. Valentine’s Day is about spreading love, and you don’t need a significant other to celebrate it. However, I would like to remind everyone that we don’t need Valentine’s Day to give and express. It is just a holiday to remind us that love is all around.